Nourishing Your Self during those tough times

We all go through phases when we over work our system, either because we have to or because we feel we have to. We feel that we have no other option than to keep on doing, keep on going, non stop, no relaxation, no balance, we give all our energy out there, over working our self, over thinking, over doing, we have no time or we forget to eat a healthy meal, to drink some water, we do not sleep well. We believe that we have to keep up like that without complaining not even sharing it with our environment, because we are fighters. And then comes exhaustion. We fall .. no more energy, we drag our self to do our every day chores, the morning comes and we do not want to get out of bed, the night comes and we cannot sleep, and the days pass without us being present. We feel depressed, lost, no solutions in the horizon, alone, clouded thinking that brings our energy lower. We built an armour to protect our self but we imprison our self instead.

Yes we are fighters! But instead of fighting with our self to the point of exhaustion, we better surrender to the reality of the situation, accept it. Acceptance here does not mean that I give up. It means that I surrender to the reality that I am only a human. Not a superhuman that Must be going on non stop, not a superhuman that has all the answers, and that This Is OK!

The answer that brings us back to balance is a simple and basic one. Return to the self! Return to the basic simple every day staff that were making us happy before we started falling into the hole. Start nourishing your self, cook a good meal, light up some lavender or rose incense, a candle, and listen to some relaxing music. Do not abandon the simple joyful things because you have no answers no solutions for the bigger things! Make a habit, especially in these days that you feel law, to start up your day drinking a juice and a good breakfast even if that means that you have to wake up 15 minutes earlier. When you are at work, every two hours put your alarm on and take a 7min break from whatever you are doing and close your eyes and breath deeply.

Take a long walk at night, to clear your head, breath. Sitting in front of the TV will only serve as an escape and then you go to bed with your head full again. So take a long walk, think over the events that happened during your day starting from that moment and back until the morning that you woke up. Observe what were the difficult moment in your day and think of something that you could try out the next day if that situation happened again, in order to bring more balance. Think about three things that happened during your day that you are grateful for!

Make a plan to organise your time in a meaningful for you way. If it is your work that is overcoming you, ask for help! Ask that one of your colleagues helps you with a specific task for a specific period. You are not alone! And this will be very much appreciated as well, as your colleagues will feel valued since you trust them. They also know what it means and how it feels to overwork your self, so maybe the next time that they are facing something similar they can ask for your help! This makes the bonds stronger in our work environment! Even your boss could appreciate the fact that you know your limits and you share responsibilities in order to have a job well done. Or tell your boss that the specific task cannot be done in the given deadline and you need more time, give him your ideas and your plan and let him see the situation through your eyes.

At home, ask from your partner to help you with specific tasks, share responsibilities! Ask your kids to help you with some simple tasks, which even though they are simple for them, they will free some valuable time for you! If you live alone, create a list of priorities. For sure not everything has to be done now! Make your list and have the most urgent things be done first, then the rest, and maybe some things are not even that important so let them go.

Talk to your friends! You can brainstorm together and maybe find some really good resolutions to the issue you are facing! BE OPEN TO RECEIVE ADVICE!

For your emotional overload, instead of treating yourself as a lone boat in the middle of the ocean, talk to your friends. Tell them that you are not well, that you are going through a tough period, and invite them to your home for a cap of coffee or to share a good meal and talk! Share! It feels so good to talk and take it out, to feel again the compassion of another! Our friends are humans too and they know, they have been through their issues too and through their tough times, they can resonate with our feelings and our truth! We have been there for them and they love to be also here for us, if we give them the opportunity! And most of all, our friends really know us! We can expose our vulnerability to them and feel safe, they love us for who we are, there is no judgement there, we are still gonna be loved in our lower times as we are in our best of times! This is what makes them our friends!

Check out for that dance group that meets once a week in your neighbourhood or near your office and go there and move your body once a week for one hour! Most of these groups are on a donation basis so even if you are broke you can still meet with them and give what you can or arrange another kind of exchange with the group organiser. At the beginning it might seem that you do not even have that one hour available or that you cannot put your self together to get there, you feel you have no energy to give. Just do it, bring your self there, and see what happens. You never loose if you try, it is always a win situation, but you do not know what you could gain if you do no try. So get your self there! If you live alone with your kids, ask from a friend to watch them for that one hour and prepare them a fruit cake to thank them! Your friends know you and if you have talked to them and they know what you are going through they will be more than happy to organise between themselves in order to help you! You have some good friends, always remember that!

Last but not least. Ask for some professional help. See a professional psychotherapist, find a support group in your area. Even if there is no one in your area that you feel you resonate with, in our days everything and everyone can also be found on-line! So check for an on-line psychotherapist or an on-line group. And make this step forward from the comfort of your house. If your problems are money problems do not think that a professional cannot help you. You could get some really good insights about the reasons that brought you there, and find ways through understanding your self, your patterns and your qualities to change the situation to your benefit. So give it a go, try it out for a couple of months and see where it gets you!! Get deeper into these patterns that govern your life, understand your self, forgive your self, build a better more understanding and softer relationship with your self, start believing again and trust in the process that is life! There is no quick fix in life, so Invest in Your Self and your Well Being!

please feel free to download and print this 12x12 Grid, put it on your wall and let it vibrate and resonate with you, and lift your frequency to that of Well Being!